Domestic violence, also called domestic abuse, includes physical, emotional and sexual abuse in couple relationships or between family members.
It affects people from all walks of life, both male and female and presents itself in many ways. The victims often live in constant fear and intimidation from the perpetrator. This can create a very lonely, frightening and isolating existence for them. For many people, abuse starts slowly. They often don’t recognise it or play down what’s happening and only ask for help when the abuse is at its worse.
It’s abuse if your partner or a family member:
- threatens you
- shoves or pushes you
- makes you fear for your physical safety
- puts you down, or attempts to undermine your self-esteem
- controls you, for example by stopping you seeing your friends and family
- is jealous and possessive, such as being suspicious of your friendships and conversations
- frightens you
You don’t have to wait for an emergency situation to seek help.
You can:
- talk to your doctor, health visitor or midwife
- women can call 0808 2000 247, the free 24-hour National Domestic Violence Helpline run in partnership between Women’s Aid and Refuge
- men can call the Men’s Advice Line free on 0808 801 0327 (Monday to Friday 9am-5pm) or ManKind on 01823 334 244
- in an emergency, call 999
End the Fear Greater Manchester Against Domestic Violence offer support for anybody who is experiencing domestic abuse or sexual violence – Helpline: 0161 636 7525.
The Survivor’s Handbook from the charity Women’s Aid is free and provides information for women on a wide range of issues such as housing, money, helping your children, and your legal rights.
Galop.org.uk provides support to lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people experiencing domestic violence.
For forced marriage and “honour” crimes, contact Karma Nirvana (0800 5999 247) or The Forced Marriage Unit (020 7008 0151).
Anyone who needs confidential help with their own abusive behaviour can contact Respect on their free helpline on 0808 802 4040.
If you decide to leave
The first step in escaping an abusive situation is realising that you’re not alone and it’s not your fault. Before you go, try to get advice from an organisation such:
- for women: Women’s Aid or Refuge
- for men: Men’s Advice Line
If you’re considering leaving, be careful who you tell. It’s important that your partner doesn’t know where you’re going.
Sexual Assault
Women and men who have been sexually assaulted can get confidential help, treatment and support at a sexual assault referral centre. Click here to find your nearest sexual assault referral centre.